Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi, Pencil Portrait, a sketch

Maa Sharadamani Devi
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Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi—The Spiritual Consort of Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa

Introduction

In the spiritual history of India, the partnership between Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa and Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi stands as a unique example of divine companionship. It is often said that behind the progress of a great man, there is the silent support of a woman. 

Nowhere is this more true than in the life of Ramakrishna, the 19th-century saint of Dakshineswar, whose spiritual realizations and teachings inspired an entire generation of seekers. His wife, Sharadamani Devi, not only lived as his spiritual counterpart but also carried forward his legacy after his passing. 

She is revered as the “Holy Mother” (Sri Sri Maa Sarada Devi), embodying the ideals of purity, compassion, simplicity, and divine strength.

This essay explores her life story, her early years, her marriage to Ramakrishna, her devotion to Goddess Kali, her role in missionary activities, and the enduring impact of her teachings on modern India and beyond.

Early Life of Sharadamani Devi

Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi was born on 22 December 1853 in the quiet village of Jayrambati, in present-day West Bengal, India. Her parents, humble farmers, lived a simple and pious life. They believed that their daughter was born with a divine destiny, a conviction that seemed to be affirmed by her calm temperament and spiritual inclinations even in early childhood.

Unlike other children who spent their time playing, young Sharada found joy in meditation, prayer, and helping her family with household duties. She was deeply drawn to spirituality, and her natural inclination towards worship distinguished her from her peers. Villagers often noticed her serene presence and regarded her as someone blessed with extraordinary qualities.

Her upbringing in poverty instilled in her humility, patience, and a deep connection with ordinary people. Later, these same traits made her relatable to countless devotees who would approach her for blessings and guidance.

Betrothal to Ramakrishna

As per Indian tradition of the 19th century, marriages were often arranged at an early age. When Sharadamani was only five years old, she was betrothed to Ramakrishna, who was then twenty-three and serving as a priest at the Dakshineswar Kali Temple near Calcutta.

The unusual age gap and Ramakrishna’s already visible inclination toward asceticism raised questions among some. Yet the marriage proved to be a divine union rather than a worldly arrangement. While many marriages are based on worldly duties, their bond was rooted in spirituality, purity, and divine purpose.

Sharadamani Devi herself once remarked that she felt blessed to be the wife of such a God-intoxicated soul. Unlike many women of her time who might have desired a conventional married life, she wholeheartedly accepted her husband’s path of renunciation and supported him in every way.

Worship of Goddess Kali and Shared Spiritual Path

From a young age, Sharadamani Devi developed a strong devotion to Goddess Kali, the Divine Mother who represents power and protection in Hinduism. Her marriage to Ramakrishna, who himself was a priest at the Dakshineswar Kali temple, deepened this devotion further.

Ramakrishna was known for his intense spiritual practices, including austerities, meditation, and worship of the Divine Mother in many forms. Sharadamani did not see this as a challenge to their marriage but as an inspiration. Instead of demanding a conventional relationship, she became his spiritual companion.

Their union was extraordinary: despite being married, they lived in complete celibacy, dedicating themselves fully to God. This was not a denial of married life but a conscious choice to demonstrate that a relationship could transcend physicality and be rooted entirely in spirituality. Through this, they offered an example of a pure, divine marriage that could inspire generations.

Holy Mother as the First Disciple

Ramakrishna often said that Sharadamani Devi was his first disciple. He taught her spiritual disciplines, and she in turn imbibed his teachings with humility and devotion. Over time, she became not just his companion but also his spiritual equal.

When Ramakrishna’s fame grew and disciples flocked to him, Sharadamani was quietly supporting him, balancing household duties with her spiritual life. In later years, when Ramakrishna fell ill with throat cancer, she became his devoted nurse, tirelessly serving him with love and compassion until his last breath in 1886.

Her role was not limited to service; she absorbed his teachings so deeply that after his passing, she became the spiritual mother and guide to his disciples, including Swami Vivekananda, who would later spread Vedanta to the West.

Life After Ramakrishna’s Passing – Missionary Work

The death of Ramakrishna in 1886 did not mark the end of their shared mission. Instead, it became the beginning of Sharadamani Devi’s own spiritual leadership. For more than three decades, she guided the disciples and devotees of Ramakrishna, carrying forward his teachings with quiet strength.

Though she lived in simplicity and humility, she became a central figure in the Ramakrishna Movement. Under her guidance, the disciples organized themselves and expanded missionary activities, focusing on education, healthcare, and service to the poor. Swami Vivekananda often sought her blessings and considered her the embodiment of the Divine Mother.

Sharadamani Devi welcomed seekers from all backgrounds, regardless of caste, creed, or gender. She treated everyone with equal respect, feeding them, counseling them, and offering spiritual solace. Her life exemplified the principle of “Shiva Jnane Jiva ”Seva”—serving living beings as manifestations of God.

Teachings and Philosophy of Holy Mother

Though she never wrote scholarly texts or delivered long discourses, Holy Mother’s life itself became her greatest teaching. Her philosophy was expressed through her compassion, tolerance, and spiritual wisdom. Some of her most important messages included:

• Purity and Simplicity: She lived an austere life, showing that true greatness lies not in wealth or status but in simplicity and inner strength.

• Motherhood of All: She regarded every devotee as her child, embodying the universal motherly love of Goddess Kali.

• Equality: She treated people from all walks of life equally, breaking social barriers of caste and gender.

• Spiritual Discipline: She encouraged meditation, prayer, and devotion as essential for attaining peace and liberation.

• Practical Spirituality: She demonstrated that spirituality is not separate from daily life. Cooking, cleaning, serving others—all could be acts of devotion.

Her gentle yet powerful presence helped countless devotees overcome struggles, find inner peace, and walk the path of God.

The Passing of Holy Mother

After decades of selfless service and spiritual guidance, Holy Mother Sarada Devi passed away on 20 July 1920 at Jayrambati. Her final words to her disciples were deeply moving:

"If you want peace of mind, do not look into the faults of others. Rather, look into your own shortcomings. Learn to make the world your own. Nobody is a stranger, my child. The whole world is your own."

These words continue to resonate as a timeless message of love, unity, and spiritual oneness. Even today, her teachings guide the followers of the Ramakrishna Mission, which is active worldwide in spreading Vedanta philosophy and serving humanity.

Legacy of Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi

The influence of Holy Mother is not limited to her lifetime. Today, she is worshipped by millions across the globe as the Divine Mother, the perfect embodiment of grace, patience, and unconditional love. Her legacy lives on in:

1. The Ramakrishna Mission: Founded by Swami Vivekananda in 1897, the mission continues to work in the fields of education, healthcare, and social welfare, all inspired by the ideals of Ramakrishna and Sharadamani Devi.

2. Her Teachings: Her simple yet profound sayings are studied by spiritual aspirants worldwide.

3. Her Example: She demonstrated how a woman could be both deeply spiritual and deeply practical, balancing devotion with everyday responsibilities.

4. Her Motherhood: She remains the eternal "Holy Mother," reminding devotees that divine love is always nurturing, forgiving, and inclusive.

Conclusion

Holy Mother Sharadamani Devi was not merely the wife of Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa; she was his spiritual counterpart, first disciple, nurse, and successor. Her life of austerity, devotion, compassion, and service continues to inspire millions. In a world often divided by ego, ambition, and materialism, her example shines as a reminder of the power of humility and unconditional love.

Through her, we see that spirituality is not confined to temples or rituals but can be lived daily through kindness, service, and selflessness. She remains one of India’s most revered spiritual figures—forever remembered as the Holy Mother who carried the torch of Ramakrishna’s teachings and spread light to the world.